Bridal Shower Etiquette Do’s and Don’ts

Did you know bridal showers originated in the 1890’s? This celebration of gift-giving for brides is becoming increasingly popular in the UK. These pre-wedding festivities come with their own unique bridal shower etiquette. If you find yourself invited to a bridal shower or become assigned to host one yourself and want to be up to speed with all the do’s and don’ts when it comes to etiquette. Well then, you’re in the right place to get things started. 

Find our Dina Creations’ Top Tips to a drama-free bridal shower that will impress everyone – including the bride-‘zilla’!

Bridal Shower Etiquette: For The Host

  1. The bridal shower host is usually the maid of honour of the bride. In the past family members hosting the bridal shower was frowned upon. This was because people viewed it as untasteful for family members to be asking the brides friends for gifts. In more modern times, it’s not unheard of for the family to step in to plan the bridal shower.
  2. Don’t invite guests that are not invited to the wedding. If guests are invited to the bridal shower there will be an assumption that their wedding invitation is still on the way. It’s best to avoid those awkward questions at the bridal shower.
  3. The size of your bridal shower should be small and intimate. It’s the last few memories the bride will have before she meets all her guests at her wedding. Don’t overwhelm her with an extended entourage.
  4. Have a seating plan. Plan this accordingly. Give the most important people a seat at the bride’s table.
  5. Do not include the gift registry/wish list to the invitations. It’s seen as too demanding and direct. Instead, opt to email people a separate link to the online registry. This is a little more discreet and much more appreciated etiquette-wise.

Bridal Shower Etiquette: For The Guests

  1. RSVP always! If the host has thought of you to invite you to the bride’s special occasion, it’s a must to let your attendance know.
  2. If you cannot attend the bridal shower, send a gift as this is a thoughtful gesture. We recommend maybe sending some flowers with a handwritten note for the bride, the morning of the bridal shower. However, this is not compulsory.
  3. Dress accordingly! If there is a dress code that’s specified. Stick to the dress code.
  4. Don’t bring a plus-one. The last thing a bride wants to see if an unfamiliar face at her bridal shower.

We hope that clears up a few etiquette conundrums and feel free to share your suggestions below. We’d love to hear your thoughts in our comments.